7 Tips for Helping a Friend Through Divorce


When a friend is going through a divorce, you may be at a loss for words, not knowing what to do or say. Here are some tips I have learned over the years: 1) Listen more, preach less. While you should not force a friend to open up, if they want to talk about their divorce, let them. Sometimes just having a sympathetic ear and giving them the opportunity to vent can be enormously helpful. Just nodding and saying “I […]

Cheating Spouse? 5 Things You Need to Do Now


By Carla Schiff Donnelly Whether you are snooping because you suspect your spouse is cheating or you stumble upon the information by accident, actually catching your spouse cheating can be extremely heartbreaking and infuriating at the same time. While it’s easy to be paralyzed by all of the emotions that come with this discovery, this is a crucial time to make some important decisions. Here are some things to consider: 1. Stay calm. This is easier said than done, but […]

How To Move Forward With Divorce (Video)


Nan and Janet appeared on KDKA’s Pittsburgh Today Live. Topic: How to move forward with divorce, and resolutions to help you improve.

Life Coaching Helps Clients Move Toward a Better Future


By Hilary Daninhirsch Are you living your best life? What changes can you make that would allow you to reach your fullest potential? What’s holding you back? If you’ve ever asked yourself any of these questions, perhaps the solution lies in consulting a life coach. A life coach is not synonymous with a therapist. The key difference is that therapy often focuses on the past, while life coaching focuses on the present and what you want your future to look […]

Divorce and Social Security…know your options, by Janet Bouma


If you are currently divorced, and  were married for more than 10 years before divorcing, you may qualify for spousal benefits based on her ex-husband’s work record, as  long as you are least 62 and unmarried. Your ex-spouse  needs  to be eligible for benefits (age 62), but he/she doesn’t need to be receiving them, if you have been divorced for at least 2 years.  But here’s where it gets strategic. You, the ex-spouse, can choose to file for your spousal […]

Pre-Divorce Planning by Diane Pearson


It may sound deceiving, but it can be very beneficial to find out as much as possible about the marital assets before the divorce papers are served.  It is easier and ultimately more accurate, to gather evidence about financial assets before the other spouse has begun to think about issues such as hiding and protecting assets. The plan involves a thorough asset search.  Working with a Certified Divorce Analyst, and a divorce attorney can help you through the process.  A […]

Don’t Get Stuck With The Wrong Lawyer: 6 Steps To Avoid the Most Common Divorce Mistake


By Carla Schiff Donnelly Family Law Attorney The earliest stages of a separation and divorce are usually the most stressful, and clear-headed decision-making often takes a back seat to an urgent desire to get it all over with quickly. As a result, many people end up with the wrong lawyer. The selection of a divorce attorney is crucial not only to the ultimate outcome of your case, but also to how your case progresses from start to finish in terms […]

Leaving the “R Word” Behind – Insights from Divorce Coach, Nan Cohen


Do you ever avoid “hot button” topics in conversations by reverting to one letter to describe an issue? Think about when you’ve heard these letters dropped when the related word, well, just isn’t speakable. By Nan Cohen | October 31, 2013 When it comes to divorce, the letter “R”–for “Revenge”–represents a hot button word to avoid. I tell my clients–and my in-person or radio audiences–there is no place for Revenge in divorce. Sure, there are aspects of divorce that fuel […]